Why Do I Want To Be More Well?

uvrmciexq9y-aaron-burdenIn the past, whenever people talked about the Wellness Industry, to me, it sounded kind of funny — if I am well, then why do I need wellness? Why do I want to be more well?

Now, having been in the Wellness Industry, it made me realise so many things one of which, which is the most important thing — Most people may look well but they are really on the borderline of wellness. If they tip the scale of stretching themselves too far in terms self care, or the lack of self care, it is easy for them to slip into being unwell. So in this sense the Wellness Industry does have a big part and place in the world, because it is helping people to be more well than they are allowing themselves to be.

In my work, I meet all kinds of people from kids to the elderly and on the surface they are well, but after having a chat with them about their lifestyle I can see that it is only a matter of time before they fall into the unwell status. So my job is to prevent them from falling into that black hole of “unwellness”. Why does anyone want to be sick if they can prevent it right?

What can you do to prevent yourself from falling into the unwell status?

  • Monitor your stress levels. This is a no-brainer. But as people will say, it is easier said than done. Over the space of the past 5 days, my dear dog Rawley went through two operations. It was potentially a really stressful time. I caught myself just being all stressed about making decisions and wanting it to be the best decision for Rawley, and having to pay an exorbitant amount of money for his medical bills (There’s no pet medical insurance in Singapore) My stress buster kicked in and I immediately placed my focus on what what are the things I could do, and then let go completely of all the things I cannot do. Key: To do what you can, and leave the rest to God/Universe/Whatever beliefs or philosophy you have (I’m happy to say Rawley is back home and in recovery mode now)
  • Keep your emotions and mind in check. It is easy to spiral out of control when we are stressed. We start to overthink things, worry about things that might not happen, we lie to ourselves. Simply put we increase our pulse rate by our fluctuating emotions and thinking. Recently, we came back from a trip from the USA, which is really quite a long journey. My almost 10 year old daughter said to me, “Urgh, I don’t want to think about the next flight we have to take. We are on this 9 and 1/2 hour flight and then we have another 6 and 1/2 hour flight to take!” She was going through an emotional roller coaster just thinking about the flights that WE WILL BE TAKING, it is a reality that will happen because that is how we will get home, yet the thought is making her feel emotionally off and highly anxious. Key: If something is inevitably going to happen anyway, accept it. And focus your mind and emotions on other things that are more productive that will help you to feel more empowered. (She distracted herself with watching movies, and reading her book and eventually fell asleep so time just flew past)
  • Choose what you feed yourself wisely. Ok, so the thing with healthy eating is that it does not sound very appealing to most people, so most decide that the best thing to do is not eat healthily. In my home, my daughter and I get a raw fruit and veg smoothie each day. With lots and lots of greens and colours, high in antioxidant and yummy goodness. This way, we know that we are getting good stuff in at least one of our meals. When we eat out, it is a little harder to control how healthy the food really is, even if it is touted as healthy food. And if we feel like having a pizza or an ice cream, we will go for it. And since we are vegetarians, it is also easy to fall into the trap of ‘healthy vegetarian’ food when quite a lot of it are processed stuff. So we learn to strike a balance and know when to say no to over processed food. Understand also that processed food can increase your physical stress levels, as can animal protein that have been abused and then slaughtered in inhumane ways. Key: Find the balance and make sure you have at least one Super Healthy Super Foods meal a day.
  • Choose what you feed yourself wisely, emotionally and mentally too. Surround yourself with positive people, positive books, positive television programs – you get the picture. There’s nothing like a negative force that can tip you over the edge when you are stressed, and this negative force could even come from ‘well meaning’ people. Sometimes people become a**holes without meaning to, well, it is a shame. Key: Just stay away from negative forces in people, books, tv, social media etc.
  • Exercise. Another no-brainer. Yet, we struggle with this so much. For most, it is not enjoyable at all. How about choosing something that is easier to do, takes up less time and you still get results? I would recommend this: http://www.downsizemefast.com/ I don’t get anything out of promoting this. Just wanted to share some good stuff. Sat Kumar is my friend and personal trainer but he also offers online video training for anyone in any part of the world. Key: Just keep moving!
  • Use Quality Products that maintain your wellness level. Supplements, superfoods, all of these are a necessity these days. Because we live in such a fast paced world, we deplete all the goodness in our foods, air we breathe, water we drink rather rapidly within our bodies. Causing a complete havoc in our hormonal system as well. (I’m not a doctor or nutritionist, so I can’t give you anything concrete or scientific but I know this through observing my own health and body. And I am sure you notice it too within yourself) I personally use Young Living essential oils and supplements to assist me in maintaining my wellness levels, they include oils to help me to maintain a healthy immune system, maintain a healthy hormonal system, maintain a healthy spiritual, emotional and mental life, and so much more! Because these products are so good, I even recommend them to my clients, who have been so wowed by them. Ok, enough said, don’t want to come across as over promoting but this is how much I love them oils.  Key: Use quality products other than food and exercise that assist you in maintain your wellness.
  • Build positive relationships with people. By this, I mean real life people, not ‘friends’ on social media. Meeting people may not come naturally to some especially if you are an introvert. Fortunately, it is a life skill that can be learned. There are many articles, research etc that supports this, so you can google and read these yourself. But I do have one link here I want to share, its quite a good one. http://www.happify.com/hd/why-friends-make-us-happier/ Enjoy. Key: Get out there and meet people and be happy!

I am sure you can think of many more things and are doing them already to prevent yourself from falling off the wellness line. Do share them with me by commenting below.

Till the next time, have a Fabulous Day of Wellness!


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